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Dear DeDe

Beauty From the Inside Out!

Oh Dog! DeDe here with another beauty tip to make you look and feel your best!


Do not condemn the judgment of another because it differs from your own. You may both be wrong. ~Dandemis


This week’s tip is to live and let live.

It seems to me that humans are always on the lookout for someone who has said or done something that should be held up to public ridicule.

Don’t believe me? Then check out the website devoted to photos taken of people shopping at Wal-Mart.  Oh, but it’s just a bit of harmless fun!

Is it really? Or is it laughing at people who don’t measure up to what YOU think they should look like, dress like, or just be?

The thing is, it’s easier to look at others and ridicule them than it is to look within and see what needs some work. Making fun of others is easy. Accepting the truth about ourselves is painful.

That’s not to say I don’t call out the actions of others when I disagree with them. But there’s a difference in calling out the actions of others and making fun of others.

Making fun of others has the unwelcome side effect of hardening our hearts and making us appear unapproachable. Since happy people are more attractive, it would do us all good to let go of our animosity toward others and let them be.

It’s not as easy as it sounds. Looking down on people who look down on people is just as internally destructive. It’s one of the sneaky ways that “enlightened” people find to avoid looking at themselves while still maintaining a posture of selflessness.

So in order to keep myself open to others and free of anger,  most of my focus needs to be on my own problems. Trust me, it’s a full-time job.


Have a great week, and never leave your home without this essential beauty product- A SMILE!

About Jen and the Furries

Hello and welcome. I’m a 50 something woman who’s probably awake when she should be sleeping. Oh, and there are animals, because who doesn’t have pets?


36 thoughts on “Beauty From the Inside Out!

  1. Good advice DeDe XXXX 🙂 LOVE XX c

    Posted by Cat Forsley | June 23, 2013, 7:59 AM
  2. Very humorous, my daughter and I will enjoy following you and the great advice, stories in how to deal with life. My daughter has two blogs and they are all about animals wild and domesticated. Have a great day!

    Posted by Simple Northern Life | June 23, 2013, 8:13 AM
  3. That ridicule shows a very insecure person! Why would the reaction not be to get to know them better? Pretty is as pretty does. Our own condition can change in an instant, and we are but one step away from those we ridicule. Do unto others…

    Posted by Bernadette | June 23, 2013, 8:22 AM
  4. My granny always said: before you look on the holes in the socks of others, check your own socks :o)

    Posted by easyweimaraner | June 23, 2013, 8:23 AM
  5. Very well put, Dede. 🙂

    Posted by Bluejellybeans | June 23, 2013, 8:36 AM
  6. Good for you DeDe……you ought to know all about beauty starting on the inside and definitely showing on the outside cuz you are THAT and more!

    Kitty Hugs, Sammy

    Posted by onespoiledcat | June 23, 2013, 8:37 AM
  7. Excellent post sweet DeDe. Hugs and nose kisses

    Posted by What's Going on at Mumsy's | June 23, 2013, 9:33 AM
  8. Very good point!

    Posted by Emmadog | June 23, 2013, 9:49 AM
  9. VERY well said.

    Posted by Frankie and Ernie | June 23, 2013, 9:54 AM
  10. Well said. and those Walmart pics aren’t harmless fun. An attorney acquaintance was contacted by a developmentally disabled person featured in one of those mean posts. s/he was devastated by the ridicule and wanted the lawyer to make it stop. He couldn’t. Tacky Walmart shoppers have feelings too.

    Posted by kdkh | June 23, 2013, 10:06 AM
  11. Treat others how you want to be treated x

    Posted by mythreemoggies | June 23, 2013, 10:09 AM
  12. Hi DeDe! I totally agree that in order to keep ourselves open to others and free of anger, most of our focus needs to be on our own problems!!! I keep it in mind!!! Thanks for this great tip! Have a Happy Sunday! 🙂

    Posted by eripanwkevin | June 23, 2013, 10:15 AM
  13. Wise words Dede

    Posted by stanze | June 23, 2013, 10:37 AM
  14. You are so wise, DeDe. Thanks for the words to strive to live by.

    Posted by meowmeowmans | June 23, 2013, 10:58 AM
  15. Reblogged this on The Deroche Decibel and commented:
    I think this is a great reminder. I try to be as kind as possible, but certainly fall prey to this kind of behavior. Even the website mentioned here. We are all outcasts to someone!

    Posted by Editor-in-Chief: Carrie B | June 23, 2013, 11:14 AM
  16. That was a very insightful and thought provoking post. I was immediately struck by how many times I have done just that. This really hit home for me. Thank you.

    Posted by tracy elizabeth | June 23, 2013, 12:08 PM
  17. DeDe, you are a very wise dog.

    Posted by BJ Pup | June 23, 2013, 12:30 PM
  18. Dede is it okay to make fun of yourself? I do it to get my co-workers to crack a smile and relax a Lil. I hope its ok. 🙂 I hope you are doing okay miss dede. Please give you mom cuddles and kisses. Oh another tip for feeling beautiful and loved is to get a trinket box ans fill it with kind phrases about yourself. Go into the box when you are having a bad day.

    Posted by peacelovenwhiskers | June 23, 2013, 12:30 PM
  19. He looks so cute. Reminds me of my dog Sage!

    Posted by pamelasusancoursonmorrison | June 23, 2013, 12:30 PM
  20. Does your advice apply to cats? They have problems.

    Posted by Bongo | June 23, 2013, 3:49 PM
  21. Very wise post, Dede – a great motto for all to live by.

    Woos – Phantom, Thunder, Ciara, and Lightning

    Posted by Phantom, Thunder, Ciara, and Lightning | June 23, 2013, 8:30 PM
  22. One of the things that I admire about non-human animals is that when they see someone different, it’s just that, different, not better or worse or complicated… or they see food but that’s another matter. And, they don’t judge themselves. I’ve seen tiny dogs play with or bark at huge dogs.
    Good one DeDe 🙂

    Posted by EllaDee | June 23, 2013, 9:29 PM
  23. Very wise words!

    Posted by Run A Muck Ranch | June 23, 2013, 10:22 PM
  24. Very wise words Rumpy – if we put as much effort into improving ourselves rather than pointing out other people’s flaws, we’d get somewhere! 🙂

    Posted by humanrescuesdog | June 23, 2013, 11:53 PM
  25. DeDe how true,i might speak up if I disagree with someone but that is over an action or words..and usually this is on behalf of the downtrodden…I am a faulty human being so far from perfect it’s not funny..so who am I to judge..unless..unless it’s a cruelty issue or bullying..this I do get my back up over.

    Posted by fozziemum | June 24, 2013, 5:03 AM
  26. DeDe how wise you are!!! Let’s all focus on your problems and then we will be unified!! 🙂 xx

    Posted by CATachresis | June 24, 2013, 12:29 PM
  27. Great idea wise DeDe.
    Those that live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones – and everyone seems pretty fragile right now.
    Paw waves!

    Posted by philosophermouseofthehedge | June 24, 2013, 2:15 PM
  28. I didn’t know there was such a website. That’s very sad. Mockery of others is a human foiblebut it’s encumbant upon all of us to keep a lid on it and be our best selves.

    Posted by Ann Sowards | June 26, 2013, 9:17 AM
  29. Hard lesson to learn, still is at times! When I see someone act rude I want to just give them a word-vomit all the way to China. But then that would be the same thing. I would like to strangle people that hurt animals, but then I would be hurting being as well. Bah! Need to constantly slap my instincts in the face. 😛

    Posted by LifeOfBun | June 30, 2013, 5:38 AM
    • Now, now. No need to beat yourself up because you do what is human nature. It takes practice. Trust me, Jen has been practicing a lot longer than you, and she still finds herself reacting the same way you mentioned. How about making a point to be nice to one person a day? That’s 365 people in a year. That’s LOTS of people!

      Posted by rumpydog | June 30, 2013, 6:43 AM

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