Gender Inequality and the Women Who Love It

Recently I overheard a conversation between two women in management talk about a promotional position one was interviewing for. The second woman told the first she was a shoo-in because she’s a pretty woman and “sex sells.”

Despite the fact women are graduating college at rates higher than men, we continue to earn less on average than men. And while we do get promoted to entry-level supervisory positions, we sometimes have to wait longer for those promotions, and we don’t go much further up the ladder when compared to men. That has an impact on our earning ability throughout our life, and on the money we have available after retirement.

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It’s easy to say that it’s men who are holding women back, but the problem is more complex. The workplace has a culture and set of beliefs that can subtly, yet systematically, show favoritism toward men. It’s not just men who hold us back; women do it too.

So who are these women who are holding their sisters back in the workplace?

The ones who clawed their way up the ladder.  These are the women who stayed and fought to get that mid-level manager position they have today, and see no reason why other women can’t do the same. There are more men than women in her chain of command, and she earns less than the men in the same position as her, yet she doesn’t feel her gender has held her back in her career in any way.

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The Bible-thumping fundamentalists who believe men should rule ALL roosts, both at home and at work. These women believe women should be submissive to men in the workplace as they are at home. In their eyes, there’s nothing wrong with a man earning more than a woman because he has a family to support, while she either supplements her husband’s income or gets child support to make up the difference.

The gal who just wants to be one of the boys. She can be just as obnoxious as the old boys’ club, and therefore gets to hover on the periphery of their group. When other women complain of the boys’ club clique, they send her out as their enforcer, the female equivalent of Uncle Tom.

Little Miss Cutesy who sees nothing wrong with using her looks to get what she wants. Her mantra is you use what your mama gave ya, but she fails to see how her actions hurt other women today and her older, less pretty self several years down the road. 

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Gee, things were just fine until that uppity bitch started yelling about gender inequality! This is the woman who simply doesn’t want things to change, because if things change, then she’ll have to change as well. So shut the fuck up already!

Still think gender bias is not systemic? Then watch this video clip from Jimmy Kimmel Live. Especially pay attention to why the children don’t think we should have a female president.


These kids had to learn it somewhere. 

So just how do we change gender bias in the workplace? I think you have to force it. Otherwise men will keep acting like they’re better than women, and women will continue to accept this line of thinking as just the way things are.

What subtle ways does gender bias rear its’ ugly head in your workplace?

13 thoughts on “Gender Inequality and the Women Who Love It

  1. Where shall I begin? I’ve both encountered and been the subject of sexist comments throughout my working life. Surprisingly, most of them have been by women, directed at me or other men.

    Here’s one example. About 15 years ago a Hispanic female colleague at the bank where I worked at the time told a group of us at lunch one day that she urged her 2 young adult daughters not to date Hispanic men because most were like their father (my coworker’s ex-husband). I got mad and told her not to compare me or other Hispanic men to “your trashy ex-husband.” She concurred I was right; he was “trashy.” I then said she didn’t think he was trashy when she took off her clothes and jumped in bed with him at the age of 17 – either the bed in his room or his truck. There was a large group of us in the break room, and I was only 1 of 2 men. Everyone gasped when I made that clothes comment. But it’s just like some people to fall for the wrong person (male or female) and then develop an attitude towards the entire opposite sex because that individual didn’t turn out to be Hollywood perfect.

    I’ve heard plenty of female colleagues make crass comments about men – everything from our bodies to the myth fathers don’t serve a purpose. Just like I’ve heard Black and Hispanic people make racist comments, sexism isn’t relegated to just one group of people.

    Bigotry is dangerous and hateful, no matter who’s doing the talking.

    1. Bigotry IS dangerous and can lead to sexual harassment, which is illegal.

      Did the bias lead to your being denied promotion? Were you somehow considered less productive due to your gender? Were you denied raises because of your gender? Only you know the answer.

      For example, people get the idea men who teach elementary school or- God forbid- preschool are perverts and emasculated. To deny those men opportunities for advancement based on those erroneous beliefs would be similar to what I’m talking about.

  2. I worked in a place where there was a clear gender inequality in pay. A male colleague got a new position and a promotion, yet I got more responsibilities and nothing. They then brought in a less qualified man in to be my boss on 3 times my wage.

    It’s one of those things you think doesn’t happen until you experience it.

      1. And it puts you in a no-win situation. If you complain, odds are nothing will be done about it but there WILL be retaliation against you. If you don’t complain, it eats at your insides. So most of us just move on to another job. Regardless of which path you choose, you lose.

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