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The Vet Said…

We’ve just come back from our follow-up with the vet.

The initial exam was unremarkable. Normal temp. Breathing sounded better. His lymph nodes felt OK.

Next more X-rays to have another look at that lymph node. I also asked if they’d aspirate the tumor on his leg to see if it could be a lypoma.

It’s not good, I’m afraid.

The spot at the base of his heart has grown.

Our good vet said she could do surgery and possibly remove it, but it would require cracking his chest. I said no. Chemo might buy a few months, and she could refer me to an oncologist.

Her best guess is I have 2-6 months with Rumpy. But it’s just a guess. All I really know is I have today.


It’s not that I didn’t expect this. The cats have been telling me for days. They know. Animals always know.

It’s an awful place to be. My heart wants to do everything humanly possible for Rumpy. My head says that even if I could afford it, I don’t want his final days to be filled with procedures that buy at best a little time. For me. Not for him. For me.

Soon my home will be without a dog for the first time in many years. It hit me how frightening a prospect that will be. Rumpy and those who have come before have been a source of comfort and protection for me as a single woman. I have to admit that fear because I don’t want Rumpy hanging around for me because I’m afraid. His death needs to be on his terms. I told him to let me know when he was ready and I’d respect his wishes.

I feel guilty saying all this knowing yesterday a Twitter friend died in a tragic house fire.

But life does go on, doesn’t it? I still have to work. Bills must be paid. There are others who depend on me too.

Please keep us in your thoughts as we face Rumpy’s final journey on this plane. 

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Hello and welcome. I’m a 50 something woman who’s probably awake when she should be sleeping. Oh, and there are animals, because who doesn’t have pets?


90 thoughts on “The Vet Said…

  1. They may leave our lives but never our heart, and when the time is right he will send you another protector.

    Posted by Lisa | February 20, 2017, 9:37 AM
  2. I know your situation and pain. I made the decision about my Maggie almost two years ago. She was a Queensland heeled. High energy, and my shadow. I promised her I would let her go when she could no long fulfill her duty to watch over me and be by my side every waking moment. Which was her desire. When the day came, it was the hardest act of love I have ever done, but it was for her. I miss her every day. What you will do for Tummy will be your greatest accomplishment for him.

    Posted by Linda merrick | February 20, 2017, 9:38 AM
  3. We’re purring and praying that Rumpy has good, quality time left with you. They always seem to “tell us” when the time is right.

    The Florida Furkids and Mom Sharon

    Posted by The Florida Furkids | February 20, 2017, 9:38 AM
  4. This makes me so, so sad to read about Rumpy and how his days are dwindling down. Tough times for you all. So sorry to hear this sad news. I feel for you and know how hard it is for you since he has been such a huge part of your life as a wonderful companion and loyal friend. Hugs to all and some extra cuddles for Rumpy from his pal, Loup and I.

    Posted by catchats | February 20, 2017, 9:38 AM
  5. This is such a sad post. 2 minutes before I was cleaning vomit off the new rug and cursing my hound. But now I’m crying and feeling so grateful he’s still just a pup. Thank you for writing this. Having been through similar situations wth previous dogs, I know how heart wrenching it is. Wishing you both a glorious and peaceful time together, no matter how long or short it is. Rumpy dog is a lucky animal to have such an understanding human 🙂 Big hugs to you both xxxx

    Posted by VeganVoman | February 20, 2017, 9:43 AM
  6. I don’t know what to say dear Jenny, but be sure my thoughts, all my heart are with you. I know what you are afraid and the meaning of these days, with my other cat we lived. And in the clinic… It wasn’t easy, for me and for him. God be with you both, Love and hugs, for you all, nia

    Posted by niasunset | February 20, 2017, 9:48 AM
  7. Rumpy will let you know when he is tired and ready. The decision is so tough when you have to let go of the paw to let them run free at the Bridge. Take it one day at a time, let him eat and do anything that he wants. Give him lots of love and hugs. Check things off his bucket list of things he would like to do or have. (Toys, Food, Treats, Walks)

    Posted by Stephanie | February 20, 2017, 9:51 AM
  8. I am so sorry … 😦

    Posted by Stacey | February 20, 2017, 9:57 AM
  9. oh, you dear souls! I’m so sorry – cherish every moment, and know that the special bond you have will live forever. love to you all

    Posted by Roy Sexton (Reel Roy Reviews) | February 20, 2017, 10:07 AM
  10. I’m sorry to hear this. Our dogs stay with us for such a little time because they do not need to perfect them selves the way humans do. 😦 that said, it won’t make you whit easier for you.

    May his remaining days be filled with peace and joy. May you find all the special times that you have ever hoped for in the days ahead And know that you have provided him with a wonderful life and that he adores you

    Sniffle. I will be holding you both close

    Posted by anotherboomerblog | February 20, 2017, 10:11 AM
  11. I’m so sorry to read all this and know it must be so hard for you even with your realistic viewpoint on life going on. I hope the days that follow are filled with comfort for you both and good quality and won’t be too stressful. Love to you.

    Posted by The Persecution of Mildred Dunlap | February 20, 2017, 10:16 AM
  12. I’m so sorry that your vet had no better news for you… but sometimes the prognosis becomes not true. I remember as we drove back from vet university with our Frosty (circumanal tumor maligne) after the vets gave us the “end of all wisdom look” … we had nearly one year together after that , against all odds and predictions…so I wish you and the cookie saurus as much quality time as possible….

    Posted by easyweimaraner | February 20, 2017, 10:16 AM
  13. It’s a difficult time for you, you will be in my thoughts. Try to enjoy your time together, even though it will be bittersweet.

    Posted by Clowie | February 20, 2017, 10:20 AM
  14. Oh honey, I’m so, so sorry. Praying you both get closure in the coming weeks and month (whatever that looks like), and grateful for the time you’ve had with Rumpy. I’m glad you’ve shared him with the rest of us. Thank you.

    Posted by Flea | February 20, 2017, 10:26 AM
  15. I know how you feel, and you know I do. Sending you all hugs and love from Maine.

    Posted by JA Hitchcock (@Netcrimes) | February 20, 2017, 10:27 AM
  16. My heart goes out to you and Rumpy. Take care of yourself and wish you peace.

    Posted by Daniel Scott | February 20, 2017, 10:30 AM
  17. I am so sorry. I actually have tears in my eyes right now. I hope bumpy will soon find some peace and you as well.

    Posted by C.A. | February 20, 2017, 10:35 AM
  18. Oh, my. My heart is breaking with you. Rumpy has been a source of comfort since losing our granddog, Miloh. His expressions are so loving. It is obvious he loves you. Sending you courage and comfort as you enjoy your days with him. I wish you enough!

    Posted by Pam B. Newberry | February 20, 2017, 10:39 AM
  19. We’re so sorry, Jen. This is simply heartbreaking, and I have tears in my eyes as I type this comment. My fervent wish is that the time you and Rumpy have left is filled with comfort, peace and love.

    Posted by meowmeowmans | February 20, 2017, 10:56 AM
  20. I’m so sorry it’s coming down to this time. Knowing what, but not when, can make each day a trauma of worry and doubt. We hope you can enjoy the deepening of your relationship and each day you have, and that Rumpy has many more days than anyone thinks he will.

    Posted by Bernadette | February 20, 2017, 11:13 AM
  21. I’m sorry to hear what you are facing. Difficult decisions ahead. My lab aged badly and her last years grew increasingly difficult. She was healthy but losing her legs and back. It was a difficult decision but finally my wife and daughter agreed that she was suffering so much more than we wanted. I still think about the lat day and how at every minute I wanted to stop the vet from coming out and going through with it. But the poor girl had lived her life.

    And with our last shepard mix, she got sick and went fast, but we had the choice of highly invasive procedures and feeding tubes ETC. We declined and unexpectedly had to say goodbye. In both cases it was heart breaking and I think back to the events weekly. But I still love them, I think about them often. Our new dog didn’t come along for almost 2 years after the last loss. She is, of course, not them, but fully delightful in her own ways. I’m sorry for your news.

    Posted by mfearing | February 20, 2017, 11:16 AM
  22. Oh Jen,I am sorry to hear this,I was praying so hard for some better news than this for you and for Rumpy.But I think you are right to want to just make the most of the time you have left together without all the treatments and procedures.some times quality of life out weighs the quantity of life.Rumpy will let you know when it is time to say good bye and He still may surprise us and you of how much time he has left ,he is a tough old fella,Send you you all our love to you and Rumpy and the kitties too,xx Rachel and Speedy

    Posted by speedyrabbit | February 20, 2017, 11:17 AM
  23. I am so, so sorry. Enjoy the time you have left. My thoughts will always be with you.

    Posted by pensitivity101 | February 20, 2017, 11:19 AM
  24. Dear Jen, Rumpy and gang – so sad to read your update. Our pets are such faithful friends. You will do your best for Rumpy, and we send all our love, Lesley and the Shackleford Boxers xxx.

    Posted by Lesley Beeton | February 20, 2017, 11:20 AM
  25. I’m sorry. Difficult decisions every way you look at it. My thoughts are with you and your pack.

    Posted by KDKH | February 20, 2017, 11:38 AM
  26. I’m so sorry, Jen. What sad news. Rumpy will never be forgotten x

    Posted by Catherine Johnson | February 20, 2017, 11:52 AM
  27. So sad to hear this news. Keeping you in our thoughts. Rumpy’s furry face has brightened my days many times. May he continue to brighten yours a while longer.

    Posted by Zach RIP Duster(@ZachieDoo) | February 20, 2017, 11:52 AM
  28. I am so sorry. Sending lots of kitty purrs and love. ❤

    Posted by Andrea Kenner | February 20, 2017, 11:53 AM
  29. So sorry about this news.
    Doing the right thing is not always easy either.
    Hugs and purrs.
    Purrs Georgia,Julie and JJ

    Posted by Mickey's Musings | February 20, 2017, 12:01 PM
  30. I am so sorry to hear these news. You will be in my thoughts all the time.

    Posted by Photofinland by Rantasalot | February 20, 2017, 12:21 PM
  31. My heart goes out to you and Rumpy. This is the hardest part of having a loved canine family member – they’re not with us long enough. Their lives may not last long, but they cram so much love into that short time.

    Posted by annabellefranklinauthor | February 20, 2017, 12:32 PM
  32. Dear Jen, I’m so sorry to read this sad post. I wish you much strength and love. My thoughts are with you and Rumpy, my dear friend.

    Posted by Herman | February 20, 2017, 12:50 PM
  33. just no words of comfort and sooth the pain, this I know. No matter how many babies come into.our lives, then leave us, we are never prepared nor will we, those of us who love our babies, yes indeed, the hardest thing to do, letting then go. I know this many times over, and am going through it again with one of my precious Cats…… Sending love and comfort to you all, extra for Rumpy,vand special prayers….

    Posted by Karen Simpson. (CatSeye) | February 20, 2017, 1:43 PM
  34. I’m sorry. 😦 I will be thinking of you and Rumpy. I can’t imagine how much your heart hurts, I’ve haven’t been in your situation yet. If it were Storm and I, I think I would choose the same thing for Storm.

    Sending hugs,
    Paws & Storm

    Posted by paws2smile | February 20, 2017, 1:58 PM
  35. Will rummp bumpy bum still tweet from otrb? I will miss him.

    Posted by Indy the cat (@indykitty) | February 20, 2017, 2:17 PM
  36. Our furry loved ones often come and go as our lives changes. I have noticed they come to teach us, protect us, love us, unconditionally. Letting them go is so difficult. If time is running down then it means he feels you have learned what you needed to from him. I have learned from reading your blog, and will continue to. Positive thoughts, love and light to you all.

    Posted by Amanda | February 20, 2017, 2:51 PM
  37. You have my admiration. You are able to share your fear. And your grief. I have never been able to do this.

    I’ve lost count and nothing’s changed. Each one rends me and seems worse than the last one. I never get better at it even if I can see the magnificent cycle of it all.

    Living up to the good-bye is by far the worst. Sometimes the pain is so fierce that I’ve wanted the end to come sooner. My pain. I’ve even felt relief once it was over because the dread was gone. Then I go and do it all over again because these creatures give me an opportunity to be selfless; they illuminate the good in me and around me.

    There are so many quotes and sayings that apply when a life leaves its tangible form. This is mine and I hold it hard::

    “Each heart knows its own bitterness and no one else can share its joy.” Prov. 14:10

    I am crying with you.

    Posted by tweed bloxom | February 20, 2017, 3:53 PM
  38. Rumpy has had the best possible life with you, Jen. It’s always painful to lose a pet, but it’s also obvious you won’t let him suffer. I certainly hope you won’t take down the blog when he does go. Regardless, please keep us updated. Big furry hugs and wolf kisses!

    Posted by Alejandro De La Garza | February 20, 2017, 4:05 PM
  39. I’m so sorry Jenny. This is a hard time and will be a tough decision. I’m so glad that you are making decisions based on Rumpy’s needs. That’s always my decision too. We lost 2 last year and I miss them with all my heart but it was their decision based on how they felt and I’m really proud of that. Thanks for keeping us up to date even in the midst of the pain I know you’re feeling. Enjoy your time with him as I’m sure you’ll make sure he enjoys his time. 💕🌹💕

    Posted by Becky | February 20, 2017, 4:35 PM
  40. My dear Jen, your beautiful Rumpy is with you today and he will be for many days to come… maybe not as many as we wish them to [why couldn’t they live as long as we do and why should they suffer same diseases we do… questions us animal lovers always have in mind that are bound to linger unanswered], but each moment is an eternity, Jen. Each moment is everything, so leave behind what the predictions say. There is only one journey each of us take and Rumpy’s is a beautiful one. You can be sure that I will have you both in my thoughts with love and affection and a great big hug for your sweet baby: Rumpy.

    Posted by marina kanavaki | February 20, 2017, 4:48 PM
  41. I understand how difficult it can be to lose an four legged friend and Rumpy has been a big part of your life. I am just the opposite. Last year I had to let go of the last cat of three so for the first time in over 20yrs no cats. Then I found Dulce my rescue pup. Can’t replace a friend but certainly with time you might consider another. Be well and enjoy every moment you have.

    Posted by Renee Espriu | February 20, 2017, 5:46 PM
  42. It is an awful situation you are in. The hardest part about loving a fur baby is that their lifespan nowhere near matches ours, but it is so apparent that in his life Rumpy could not have landed anywhere better than with your family. All you can do is love him as you have in the past, and do all you can to be ready to let go when he needs you to. You will all be in my thoughts in the coming months.

    Posted by Jo Bryant | February 20, 2017, 5:54 PM
  43. In my thoughts. He will let you know.

    Posted by corkscot | February 20, 2017, 6:31 PM
  44. I’m so sorry! I know how you feel, having had to make that decision for my pup, Cinnamon, 3 years ago tomorrow, and my cat, Shadow, 4 months ago. It’s never an easy decision to make, but you have to do what’s best for them and not you. You will be in my prayers.

    Posted by jowensauthor | February 20, 2017, 6:57 PM
  45. I’m thinking about you…

    Posted by Emily @ Adventures of a Dog Mom | February 20, 2017, 7:00 PM
  46. Very sorry, he’s such a joy.

    Posted by Candace | February 20, 2017, 7:15 PM
  47. I couldn’t read and hear this result without tears…..still am very shocked….I’m very very sorry about Rumpy….I know that humans, dogs, cats and all those who have their lives will be gone someday..
    but these last few years not only Kevin but also our friend ‘ Rocky’ and ‘Texas’ dnd DeDe have gone…..very sad….Rumpy always encourage me to join social media with his cute photos and his blog posts….Rumpy…..we love you…..please stay with Jen and gangs as possible as you feel ok….we always keep you in our thoughts.
    We love you Rumpy.

    Posted by eripanwkevin | February 20, 2017, 7:36 PM
  48. I am so sorry Jen. I know that it is you who are suffering even more than he. But, all of us in Rumpy’s world have become close to him. Jack and I included. Enjoy these final days as best you can, and all my best to you both.

    Posted by bitcodavid | February 20, 2017, 10:10 PM
  49. I am so sorry you are having to go thru this. I have been in this situation a few times before – not a dog with cancer until Angel Shiloh but it is still difficult watching your dog age. At least now, with Rumpy, you know what you are facing
    I did not know for sure, altho I did suspect it for a few days before Angel Shiloh left me. And yes, Rumpy will let you know. But I am with you on chemo or any other procedures like it – it’s not just the money involved but the quality of life that I care about.

    However, right now – at this moment – Rumpy is here with you and that is what really matters. No one knows for sure how long any living being has here on earth. Just enjoy each and every moment you have with him.

    Lady Shasta sends her POTP and I am sending prayers and wishes for good health for both of you.

    Posted by Kim Brooks | February 20, 2017, 11:54 PM
  50. Your decision is made with love and respect for Rumpy. It’s the right thing, yet the pain of your heart doesn’t feel that way. Hold on to your last days together/ they will remain with you forever, as will Rumpy’s spirit. 🙏

    Posted by roughwighting | February 21, 2017, 12:46 AM
  51. Jen..i send my heart to you and Rumpy…we had this pain with Forrest last year and will no doubt go through this with Doc this year…we wanted more time but not at the expense of our pup suffering…heart and head will go to war but as you know compassion will make the decision…respect and love for our faithful friends comes at a heavy cost to our hearts…i hope you spend your days together in comfort and peace and i hope you find the strength that decisions needed can be made with hopefully love at the forefront and please no beating yourself up…my heart hurts for you..it’s a road that is hard travelled by us all…❤

    Posted by Fozziemum | February 21, 2017, 5:04 AM
  52. I am beyond sad for you, Jen! Tears are falling, because I know the heartache. Rumpy is special, as all our furries are, but I know for the rest of his life, however long, he will be loved and warm and cherished. ❤❤❤

    Posted by CATachresis | February 21, 2017, 5:32 AM
  53. I am so sorry. I love Carolyn’s last sentence… she says it better than I can. Thinking of you and wishing this could be a different better story for you and Rumpy.

    Posted by Under the Oaks | February 21, 2017, 5:49 AM
  54. I might be one of your newer converts however sad. So sad! 😫😪

    Posted by helentastic67 | February 21, 2017, 7:24 AM
  55. I’m so sorry, Jen. 😦 My heart goes out to you both! ♥

    Posted by Debbie D. | February 21, 2017, 8:22 AM
  56. What you are going through is the hardest part of being a pet parent. Our pets always tell us when it’s time. Give Rumpy lots of love. Sending hugs to you both.

    Posted by Paprika Furstenburg | February 21, 2017, 8:42 AM
  57. your head and your heart are in the right place, exactly! we are on the same page…duchess and I are experiencing some medical dilemmas and some reservations about the world of veterinary science ourselves right now. and do not feel guilty about one thing…you are a special and thoughtful human! not many of those these days!

    Posted by murphysmission | February 21, 2017, 8:56 AM
  58. My heart and my soul are with you. It is a sad road down which we have been before and probably will go down again. But he had a great life with you. Wonderful. Brilliant. Never, ever forget that.

    Posted by Marilyn Armstrong | February 21, 2017, 10:42 AM
  59. I am so sorry to hear about Rumpy…So very sorry you are all having to go through this…Thoughts for you and Rumpy.

    Posted by Life With 3 Dogs | February 21, 2017, 11:15 AM
  60. We’re sending prayers your way – for Rumpy, you, and the cats.

    Posted by Bongo | February 21, 2017, 2:40 PM
  61. We are very sorry to hear this news about Rumpy. It is obvious you love him and doing your best by him. We send you hugs and prayers.

    Posted by Dennis and Emily | February 21, 2017, 4:03 PM
  62. I know you’ve gotten lots of responses so I’ll try to keep this short. I just went through this with Guinness last October and I am so sorry.You will know too when it’s time . If you have any questions or needs, call me at 813-817-2361.Even if you just need to talk.Life does go on and he will be waiting for you on the other side of the Rainbow Bridge. I’ll keep you in prayer. Susan…

    Poem is here:

    Posted by Susan Langer | February 21, 2017, 4:10 PM
  63. I know this path well. Travel it with love. ❤

    Posted by OhMelvin | February 21, 2017, 5:15 PM
  64. I am so very sorry. Our thoughts and prayers are with Rumpy and you. We have been friends online from the beginning and it is heartbreaking. We know how much this hurts and how difficult this time is for you. WE are sending you a hug and know that we are keeping you in our prayers. Your friends at The Tiniest Tiger

    Posted by joannelmcgonagle | February 22, 2017, 11:36 AM
  65. You have our thoughts and prayers. This is a terrible time for you. Pip and the boys

    Posted by mrpipponders | February 23, 2017, 1:34 PM
  66. It’s just wrong ‘liking’ this post. So very sorry at this news. I hope you are able to spend loads of quality time with your boy. ❤︎

    Posted by Tails Around the Ranch | February 23, 2017, 4:17 PM
  67. I am so sorry .. thinking of you and dear Rumpy

    Posted by Julie@frogpondfarm | February 24, 2017, 1:04 PM
  68. Oh noooooo! I’m so very sorry to hear this. We love Rumpy too. Our furbabies bring us such joy when things are good, but so much sadness when their health takes a turn for the worse. My heart breaks for you. I remember going through that with our Miniature Schnauzer many years ago. Cherish your time together now – every minute that you can. Know his friends love him too, so you are not totally alone. HUGS from M.

    Posted by mariodacat | February 25, 2017, 9:44 AM
  69. I so feel for you. I lost 2 beautiful souls within 6 months. One to a brain tumor and one to old age. Lewis, my hound with the tumor, had a rough last few weeks. I decided against chemo for the exact same reasons you spoke of. And , also as a single female, my house was without a dog for the first time in years. I just recently rescued another furry friend. It was hard, I miss the other two. But watching a new fur face annoy the cats and wiggle her way into my heart….well…it helps. Take care and remember to take care of yourself as well as Rumpy. He would want you to.

    Posted by Nina Scott | March 13, 2017, 4:09 PM


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