I’ve been ghosted again.
I wasn’t surprised, and though my ego never likes when that happens, I wasn’t particularly bothered by it. I don’t take it personally when they leave because the way I see it, I’ve learned something about myself with the encounter and take that lesson with me as I move on.
Saturday I learned that men who ghost you don’t always stay ghosted. That first date that I thought went well but he never called? He called me Saturday and asked to see me. It was obvious this wasn’t an “I’m still interested in you” kind of call and since I have no desire to be a booty call for a ghost, I said no thanks.
Actually I’ve decided that this whole dating thing just isn’t working for me as is and that I need a new game plan. My original goal was to get back on that dating horse and ride. Now I’m ready for more than a date and a disappearing act. If you’ve tried online dating, how’d you do it? All tips are greatly appreciated.
Some of you asked why I haven’t talked about the house? I bought my mom’s house. She’s still living here because she hasn’t found a place to move to yet. It doesn’t feel like home to me; it’s like living on an episode of Hoarders. There’s stuff everywhere, it’s impossible to keep clean, I can’t arrange it the way I want and I have no solitude. Mom doesn’t seem to be going anywhere anytime soon either, so I’m not sure what to do. If she isn’t gone by the end of the month I’m going to ask her to put her stuff in storage so I can do something with the place and make it mine.
As for the shelter dog, I thought the visit went well. She who had no name was 2 years old, active, and responded to basic commands like Come and Sit. The shelter staff seemed kinda put off by me for some reason, still they offered to cat test her and get back to me. That was Thursday and they have yet to call. I know it’s some sort of sacrilege to talk bad about animal shelters and rescues, but if your job is to place pets with people maybe you should do a better job of communicating with people. Or maybe I am the only potential adopter to have been ghosted by a shelter. I’m starting to see a pattern here.
A lovely lady on Facebook who has known me since the Rumpy days has worked relentlessly to help me find the perfect dog, and after hearing about the shelter fiasco she again reached out to her contacts who got me in touch with a cat rescue in Ocala, FL who has…. yes, a dog available for adoption! I talked with the director about the dog, she checked me out, and I am pleased to announce that next weekend I’ll be driving down to pick up Buddy and bring him home.
Buddy is around 10 years old. He has some health issues due to neglect, but they are treatable and are being treated. I was told he spent much of his previous life crated. I want him to have something better in his golden years, and we all know he will give me far more than I could ever give him.
So here’s to new beginnings. Though they have been rocky on all fronts, may they soon smooth out and give me the joy and contentment I’ve worked hard for and am ready to receive.