I’m back on the online dating scene. This time I’m trying Match dot com.
To say I’m disappointed in the site is an understatement. While at first I was thrilled to see more local men on the site, I soon learned it was because many of them are fake accounts. You know, like this one. Can you spot the clue that gave this supposed post-doctoral white dude away? My comments are in blue.
I didn’t hear from him again after that.
And it’s not just the fake accounts that overwhelm the site. Did you know Match tries to get its’ paid subscribers to pay for the chance to chat with people who don’t subscribe? You mean it’s not enough that I’m bombarded with scammers that pay; you want me to be further bombarded with scammers that don’t? Nah, I don’t think so.
If you’re like me and are riding out a subscription until it expires, here are a few things to keep in mind:
If he looks too good to be true, he probably is. Slick, professional photography of a 50+ year old guy who looks like a swimsuit model? Come on! Nobody believes THAT profile is legit!
Read the profile. Does that blurb sound like something a guy who lives around here would say? I was reading a profile yesterday and the guy was supposedly the CEO of a local company. The first two paragraphs made sense, but the third one was totally off the rails with poor spelling and poor grammar usage. Or this guy who is supposed to be wealthy but can’t write a grammatically correct paragraph.
Which reminds me, the scammers like to copy and paste, so if you read a profile that sounds familiar, it’s probably because it is. Especially if it’s about a great job he has, the great life he leads or the great love he hopes to find.
Oh, and don’t forget the profile questions! I always read those. Because if a 60 year old man says he wants kids someday, he’s delusional.
As for your own profile… don’t put what you do in your profile. I think the fact that I listed my profession has made me a target. Yes, I’m a middle-age white woman with a good job. The scammers see me and say, “Oh yeah, baby! Send me all your money!” As for photos, make them flattering. And don’t talk about being lonely and wanting to find your soul mate. It makes you sound desperate.
Finally, trust your instincts. Don’t be rushed into anything, especially into talking off the dating site be it by email, phone or in person. If you do decide to email, use a disposable account that doesn’t identify you.
Bottom line: I cannot in good conscience recommend using Match.com. While it may not cost as much as some of the other sites, you’ll waste your time weeding out the fake profiles looking for someone legit.
Dogpaddling Through Life 
Back to Petfinder.com
And that’s yet another reason I have not been that keen to try online dating yet.
Yeah… I know.
that sounds like an adventure… and I agree better back to petfinder ;O)))
I know. I’m looking.
That paragraph “In his own words” sounds like it was generated by Google translation software on a bad day! 😀
It does! And some chats I’ve had sound the same way. It’s crazy!
Oh Jen I am just shaking my head in disbelief….Match used to be a pretty reputable site. I totally get what you are saying…I spot a scammer at 50 paces. Their grammar is poor.
Plenty Of Fish has scammers galore on it! Altho’ 10 years ago I DID meet & talk to actual men in my area who were REAL…..Trouble was they wanted a woman with $$$ & a car. Joke’s on them; I have neither.
Your tips about not looking desperate are excellent.
fter 2 years of not-much-happening I deleted all my Profiles. I gave up. I’e had ‘my day’. I SO wish you could find a good & honest man to share Life with….
((hugs)) Sherri-Ellen & **purrss** BellaDharma
I’ve never used dating sites, but it sounds exactly like my experience using Care.com. All I got was fake people and scammers. I paid for that, too. Not one contact was made that was a real job offer. So annoying!
There are enough fakes and deadbeats in the world that you can encounter on a day to day basis, you surely don’t need to pay to meet them. Call me jaded and cynical, but online dating gets the 👎🏼 for me. Good luck and stay suspicious while staying safe.
This article reminds me of my own experience. I actually met my husband on a free christian dating website. But prior to that, I can say that I’m a veteran when it comes to dating online (ok. I may be bragging! :-)) I did encounter alot of unpleasant people. I say, just don’t get tired of screening. You’ll eventually meet the one. Have a nice day!
On Wed, Oct 7, 2020 at 8:25 AM Dogpaddling Through Life wrote:
> Rumpy’s Kitty Siblings posted: ” I’m back on the online dating scene. This > time I’m trying Match dot com. To say I’m disappointed in the site is an > understatement. While at first I was thrilled to see more local men on the > site, I soon learned it was because many of them are fake acc” >
Try this blog post: https://wordpress.com/read/blogs/100607289/posts/16667 The one interaction you mentioned looks like it was generated by Match itself (where he asks you what your experiences were). It appears that Match was sued or is being sued by the FTC. BTW: When I read your blog the other blog post lists below so that is where I saw it. Good luck ~
And to think I considered trying Match… back to Tinder and Hinge I guess. Online dating is painful but it’s all we have right now