I’m back on the online dating scene. This time I’m trying Match dot com.
To say I’m disappointed in the site is an understatement. While at first I was thrilled to see more local men on the site, I soon learned it was because many of them are fake accounts. You know, like this one. Can you spot the clue that gave this supposed post-doctoral white dude away? My comments are in blue.
I didn’t hear from him again after that.
And it’s not just the fake accounts that overwhelm the site. Did you know Match tries to get its’ paid subscribers to pay for the chance to chat with people who don’t subscribe? You mean it’s not enough that I’m bombarded with scammers that pay; you want me to be further bombarded with scammers that don’t? Nah, I don’t think so.
If you’re like me and are riding out a subscription until it expires, here are a few things to keep in mind:
If he looks too good to be true, he probably is. Slick, professional photography of a 50+ year old guy who looks like a swimsuit model? Come on! Nobody believes THAT profile is legit!
Read the profile. Does that blurb sound like something a guy who lives around here would say? I was reading a profile yesterday and the guy was supposedly the CEO of a local company. The first two paragraphs made sense, but the third one was totally off the rails with poor spelling and poor grammar usage. Or this guy who is supposed to be wealthy but can’t write a grammatically correct paragraph.
Which reminds me, the scammers like to copy and paste, so if you read a profile that sounds familiar, it’s probably because it is. Especially if it’s about a great job he has, the great life he leads or the great love he hopes to find.
Oh, and don’t forget the profile questions! I always read those. Because if a 60 year old man says he wants kids someday, he’s delusional.
As for your own profile… don’t put what you do in your profile. I think the fact that I listed my profession has made me a target. Yes, I’m a middle-age white woman with a good job. The scammers see me and say, “Oh yeah, baby! Send me all your money!” As for photos, make them flattering. And don’t talk about being lonely and wanting to find your soul mate. It makes you sound desperate.
Finally, trust your instincts. Don’t be rushed into anything, especially into talking off the dating site be it by email, phone or in person. If you do decide to email, use a disposable account that doesn’t identify you.
Bottom line: I cannot in good conscience recommend using Match.com. While it may not cost as much as some of the other sites, you’ll waste your time weeding out the fake profiles looking for someone legit.